Feel Free On Getting Older

The ticking of the clock warns that one's youth is fading away. For people who reach their important milestones of 40's, 50's or 60's physical aspects of youth is no longer a factor. While some people have difficulty accepting their age.

For many women, getting their first wrinkles at the end of their 20s and their first grey hair at 30s are decisive events marking the ageing process. Despite a good understanding on the process, most of the time, women are getting possessive to their youth and having hard times accepting these fact of life.

"You can't be 16 for ever," said Munich psychotherapist and professor Anna Schoch. "Life means change from decade to decade."

The art of having a happy life is, according to Schoch, the ability to accept the changes positively, even when the waistline slowly disappears and menopause takes away fertility.

"Letting go of the past and being able to take on something new: These abilities keep us in flux," said Schoch. "People who try with all means to stay forever young miss true life and won't achieve the desired goal anyway."

Marcus Damm, a psychologist from Worms, Germany, believes that women who manage to free themselves from an irrational search for beauty experience a new and much more pleasant quality of life. Women who stand in front of the mirror for hours at a time and spend a lot of money on expensive cosmetics should pause for a minute and ask themselves what they are trying to prove and to whom.

In the desire to be attractive and for recognition, many women are being deflected to their true goal. They have missed important things in life. There are things that you might want to do but then undone by this kind of personal longings. Being happy is not just being able to boast yourself to others but also to show the true essence of being yourself. Living life with others and sharing the natural beauty of being you is a true happiness. No body is in the race of being you but you alone.

Ursula Richter, a sociologist from Abensberg, Germany, has seen a reversal compared with women of past generations.

"Nowadays, an active youthful woman in her 40s is nothing unusual," said Richter. A woman who has her own style, looks after herself and occasionally attends social events maintains an inner youth.

Experts also say that pretending to be young is not a way to age gracefully. They agree that miniskirts, hot pants and other garments designed for young bodies look artificial on older women. Richter considers youth fashion on older women a poor choice.

"Why should a woman of my generation want to look small, sweet and unimposing when she can score points by emphasizing completely different assets?" asked Richter.

Damm advises women who can't let go of their desire for youth to take a critical reality test. He suggests they go out into the public and flirt with 10 different, attractive young men.

"How many of them are really interested in you?" asked Damm. It might be a sobering test, but this type of confrontation should help to straighten out a distorted self-perception.

"When you appreciate that the days of endless flirtation possibilities are over, you can finally start tending to the important things in life." Feel free on getting older and you will realize that happiness is just there for you.